Saturday 3rd June 2023

Home » Frontpage » Currently Reading:

Where Have All The Fathers Gone?

November 15, 2017 Frontpage No Comments


Like most political bodies, our local school board gets its share of criticism. How are students doing? What percentages are functioning at grade-level? Are the graduation rates acceptable? What about minority students and those from low-income families? And the list goes on.
The response by school officials is usually to break down the statistics and present numerical evidence to show that the district is operating in an acceptable range. Thus we are treated to how many students read, do math, and science at grade-levels, and the number of dropouts each year, and how the district’s minority and low-income students are doing. They give you numbers, graphs, and pie charts to make their point.
But I have always noticed that the one statistic they never give to us is a breakdown of the success or lack thereof by students coming from single-parent families, especially those from fatherless homes. And the reason, I suspect, is not that school officials want to hide the numbers, but rather that the answer would not be deemed politically correct.
We spend a lot of time in this country — and the world, for that matter — trying to make everyone feel good. So everyone is allowed their own lifestyle and is free to do whatever makes them feel fulfilled, regardless of the consequences to society or their own children. To say otherwise would be to disrespect their self-identity and cause them needless pain. The truth, therefore, is judged by the requirements of political correctness and thus must yield to PC standards.
As we all intuitively know we are facing a mounting array of social ills due to the loss of fatherhood — a wretched concept of a bygone era that now has no place in our modern self-aggrandizing culture. Fathers needed in the family? Come on, give me a break.
Well, here’s the statistic that the local public schools don’t want you to have: 71 percent of high school dropouts in the country are from homes without fathers — that is nine times that of their counterparts from intact families.
“Fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics, and thinking skills; children from father absent homes are more likely to play truant from school, more likely to be excluded from school, more likely to leave school at age 16, and less likely to attain academic and professional qualifications in adulthood,” reports Professor Edward Kruk, Ph.D., in a 2012 article in Psychology Today.
Also consider this: According to government statistics, 43 percent of children in America live without a father in the home. Additionally, it has been reported that approximately 40 percent of children in fatherless homes have not seen their father at all during the past year; 26 percent of these fathers live in a different state than their kids, and half of these young people have never set foot in their father’s home!
Tell me we don’t have a problem.
Eighty-five percent of youths in prison come from fatherless homes; the level of aggression in boys is much higher in mother-only homes. Only 13 percent of juvenile delinquents are from intact homes; 33 percent have parents that have divorced or separated and 44 percent come from homes where their parents were never married. And a 2002 Department of Justice report found that 46 percent of jail inmates had a previously incarcerated family member and 20 percent had a father in jail or prison.
Children from fatherless homes are ten times more likely to drink and abuse drugs; 75 percent of young people in drug rehabilitation programs are from fatherless homes.
Adolescents without fathers are 20 times more likely to have behavioral problems and represent 85 percent of that population, according to the Centers for Disease Control.
Ninety percent of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes and 63 percent of all youth suicides are from fatherless homes, says the U.S. Department of Health. They are five times more likely to suffer physical abuse and the risk of fatal abuse is 100 times higher than for children in two-parent homes.
Girls in fatherless homes are abused more often, are more likely to engage in promiscuity and become pregnant as teenagers, and have a greater likelihood of engaging in sex by age 15 compared to their peers, and 71 percent of teenage pregnancies are to children of single parents.
Interestingly, this statistic only applies to girls in homes where there was never a father. In homes where the father has died, female statistics are almost equal to those in intact homes. This shows the effect of having a solid male role model on daughters, even when that role model is lost to death.
Which tends to support the research of Professor Emeritus David Popenoe, Ph.D., of Princeton University and author of Life Without Father who wrote: “A surprising suggestion emerging from recent social-science research is that it is decidedly worse to a child to lose a father in the modern, voluntary way than through death. The children of divorced and never-married mothers are less successful by almost every measure than the children of widowed mothers….And there is reason to believe that having an unmarried father is even worse for a child than having a divorced father.”
Sixty-five percent of all violent crimes against women were committed by boyfriends or ex-husbands; only 9 percent were committed by husbands.
Income-wise, adults who were fatherless are more likely to experience unemployment, have lower incomes, remain longer on public welfare, and are more likely to become homeless, reports Professor Kruk. Moreover he writes, “[F]ather absent children tend to enter partnerships earlier, are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions, and are more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership.”
And the statistical potpourri continues: Half the children living with single mothers are living in poverty, a rate six times higher than children with both parents; 72 percent of adolescent murderers were fatherless as were 60 percent of rapists.
“Given the fact that these and other social problems correlate more strongly with fatherlessness than with any other factor, surpassing race, social class, and poverty, father absence may well be the most critical social issue of our time,” Professor Kruk wrote.
“We ignore the problem of father absence to our peril. Of perhaps greatest concern is the lack of response from our lawmakers and policymakers, who pay lip service to the paramount importance of the ‘best interest of the child,’ yet turn a blind eye to father absence, ignoring the vast body of research on the dire consequences to children’s well-being,” he added.
So where do we go to start to rectify the situation? Obviously lawmakers, judges, and social workers have an important part to play in the solution. But I think the problem may be a little deeper, and perhaps more simple than that. We need to teach young boys to become men, to take responsibility for their actions, and especially responsibility for their children, and for their wives, sisters, and girlfriends.
In short we need to teach, and allow them to develop according to how nature intended them to grow. Boys should be allowed to be boys, and girls, girls. One thing this means is that traditional gender and family roles should be respected and encouraged. (And no-fault divorce should be ended, but that is for another column.)
Families, and in particular schools, need to stand up and be accountable for each child’s proper role development. In particular, schools need to recognize and honor male and female traits rather than putting emphasis on feminized behavior such as docility and cooperation, traits found more naturally in young girls than in young boys. Writes Christina Hoff Sommers in The War Against Boys, “But increasingly, in our schools and in our homes everyday boyishness is seen as aberrational, toxic — a pathology in need of a cure.”
She lists three cultural trends as factors that exacerbate the problem: First, the therapeutic approach to education which values feelings and denigrates competition and risk, male traits; second, zero tolerance policies that punish the normal antics of young boys, and the gender equality movement which views masculinity as predatory.
And one personal observation: I was recently asked to speak to the last meeting of a Confirmation class of grade school students who would be moving on to high school shortly. Those conducting the event wanted me to give some advice about becoming adults. I ended my talk with a message to the girls:
“You have probably heard it told to you to always act like a lady. That may be good advice, but it is not what I would necessarily give to my daughter. My advice to her would be to know how a lady should be treated and demand that treatment from everyone.”
Here that, Boys? Parents? Girls? We need to start them off right, and if we do statistics and human nature will keep them there. It will no doubt be a long slog, but it will have the power to transform culture and to restore proper balance to families.

Share Button

2019 The Wanderer Printing Co.

Twitter Feed

Unable to load Tweets

Vatican and USCCB leave transgender policy texts unpublished

While U.S. bishops have made headlines for releasing policies addressing gender identity and pastoral ministry, guidelines on the subject have been drafted but not published by both the U.S. bishops’ conference and the Vatican’s doctrinal office, leaving diocesan bishops to…Continue Reading

Biden says Pope Francis told him to continue receiving communion, amid scrutiny over pro-abortion policies

President Biden said that Pope Francis, during their meeting Friday in Vatican City, told him that he should continue to receive communion, amid heightened scrutiny of the Catholic president’s pro-abortion policies.  The president, following the approximately 90-minute-long meeting, a key…Continue Reading

Federal judge rules in favor of Gov. DeSantis’ mask mandate ban

MIAMI (LifeSiteNews) – A federal judge this week handed Florida Republican Gov. Ron DeSantis another legal victory on his mask mandate ban for schools. On Wednesday, Judge K. Michael Moore of the Southern District of Florida denied a petition from…Continue Reading

The Eucharist should not be received unworthily, says Nigerian cardinal

Priests have a duty to remind Catholics not to receive the Eucharist in a state of serious sin and to make confession easily available, a Nigerian cardinal said at the International Eucharistic Congress on Thursday. “It is still the doctrine…Continue Reading

Donald Trump takes a swipe at Catholics and Jews who did not vote for him

Donald Trump complained about Catholics and Jews who did not vote for him in 2020. The former president made the comments in a conference call featuring religious leaders. The move could be seen to shore up his religious conservative base…Continue Reading

Y Gov. Kathy Hochul Admits Andrew Cuomo Covered Up COVID Deaths, 12,000 More Died Than Reported

When it comes to protecting people from COVID, Andrew Cuomo is already the worst governor in America. New York has the second highest death rate per capita, in part because he signed an executive order putting COVID patients in nursing…Continue Reading

Prayers For Cardinal Burke . . . U.S. Cardinal Burke says he has tested positive for COVID-19

VATICAN CITY (CNS) — U.S. Cardinal Raymond L. Burke said he has tested positive for the virus that causes COVID-19. In an Aug. 10 tweet, he wrote: “Praised be Jesus Christ! I wish to inform you that I have recently…Continue Reading

Democrats Block Amendment Banning Late-Term Abortions, Stopping Abortions Up to Birth

Senate Democrats have blocked an amendment that would ban abortions on babies older than 20 weeks. During consideration of the multi-trillion spending package, pro-life Louisiana Senator John Kennedy filed an amendment to ban late-term abortions, but Democrats steadfastly support killing…Continue Reading

Transgender student wins as U.S. Supreme Court rebuffs bathroom appeal

WASHINGTON (Reuters) -The U.S. Supreme Court on Monday handed a victory to a transgender former public high school student who waged a six-year legal battle against a Virginia county school board that had barred him from using the bathroom corresponding…Continue Reading

New York priest accused by security guard of assault confirms charges have now been dropped

NEW YORK, June 17, 2021 (LifeSiteNews) — A New York priest has made his first public statement regarding the dismissal of charges against him.  Today Father George W. Rutler reached out to LifeSiteNews and other media today with the following…Continue Reading

21,000 sign petition protesting US Catholic bishops vote on Biden, abortion

More than 21,000 people have signed a letter calling for U.S. Catholic bishops to cancel a planned vote on whether President Biden should receive communion.  Biden, a Catholic, supports abortion rights and has long come under attack from some Catholics over that…Continue Reading

Bishop Gorman seeks candidates to fill two full time AP level teaching positions for the 2021-2022 school year in the subject areas of Calculus/Statistics and Physics

Bishop Thomas K. Gorman Regional Catholic School is a college preparatory school located in Tyler, Texas. It is an educational ministry of the Catholic Diocese of Tyler led by Bishop Joseph Strickland. The sixth through twelfth grade school provides a…Continue Reading

Untitled 5 Untitled 2

Attention Readers:

  Welcome to our website. Readers who are familiar with The Wanderer know we have been providing Catholic news and orthodox commentary for 150 years in our weekly print edition.

  Our daily version offers only some of what we publish weekly in print. To take advantage of everything The Wanderer publishes, we encourage you to su
bscribe to our flagship weekly print edition, which is mailed every Friday or, if you want to view it in its entirety online, you can subscribe to the E-edition, which is a replica of the print edition.
  Our daily edition includes: a selection of material from recent issues of our print edition, news stories updated daily from renowned news sources, access to archives from The Wanderer from the past 10 years, available at a minimum charge (this will be expanded as time goes on). Also: regularly updated features where we go back in time and highlight various columns and news items covered in The Wanderer over the past 150 years. And: a comments section in which your remarks are encouraged, both good and bad, including suggestions.
  We encourage you to become a daily visitor to our site. If you appreciate our site, tell your friends. As Catholics we must band together to rediscover our faith and share it with the world if we are to effectively counter a society whose moral culture seems to have no boundaries and a government whose rapidly extending reach threatens to extinguish the rights of people of faith to practice their religion (witness the HHS mandate). Now more than ever, vehicles like The Wanderer are needed for clarification and guidance on the issues of the day.

Catholic, conservative, orthodox, and loyal to the Magisterium have been this journal’s hallmarks for five generations. God willing, our message will continue well into this century and beyond.

Joseph Matt
President, The Wanderer Printing Co.

Untitled 1


Today . . .

Pontifical Academy for Life president calls medically assisted suicide ‘feasible’

Washington, D.C. Newsroom, Apr 23, 2023 / 15:02 pm Archbishop Vincenzo Paglia, president of the Pontifical Academy for Life, has spoken in support of legalized medically assisted suicide, calling it “feasible” despite the clear teachings of the Catholic Church against it. “Personally, I would not practice suicide assistance, but I understand that legal mediation may be the greatest common good concretely possible under the conditions

Supreme Court Temporarily Blocks Lower Court Ruling Banning Mail-Order Abortions

The Supreme Court has temporarily blocked a lower court ruling banning mail-order abortions and putting safety measures in place to protect women who are currently being injured at high rates by the abortion pill. The high court made the decision to allow but sides in the legal battle the chance to provide additional information and to allow it to more fully consider the case next week. Also, another federa judge issued a contrasting ruling that…Continue Reading

A Call to Action for Parents . . . Minnesotans Wake UP! The Insanity in This State Continues!

">Cardinals Burke . . . SAME-SEX UNION BLESSINGS?

Longtime teacher fired after discussing God in classroom, challenging ‘evil’ LGBT school policy

(LifeSiteNews) — A longtime public school teacher in Idaho was let go earlier this month for being unafraid to mention God in the classroom and voicing his objections to a pro-LGBT policy designed to promote “transgender” ideologies among young people.  Ian O’Connell, a Catholic teacher who served as a substitute in the public institutions of Caldwell School District for over 20 years, spoke on February 13 about a proposed “gender identity and sexual orientation” policy that…Continue Reading

Feminist Professor Who Vandalized Pro-Life Table . . . Gets Fired After Holding Machete To Reporter’s Neck

By MICAIAH BILGER WASHINGTON, D.C. (LifeNews) — A New York City art professor accused of vandalizing a pro-life student display and later threatening two journalists with a machete has been fired from her job.Shellyne Rodriguez, of the Bronx, was an adjunct assistant professor of art at Hunter College, a public, taxpayer-funded school under the City…Continue Reading

A Symptom Of Urban Crime’s Toll On College Students

By ARMSTRONG WILLIAMS In recent years, there has been a surge in violent crime in our nation’s capital, and unfortunately, our college students have not been spared. This issue has become symptomatic of a larger problem that plagues urban cities across the nation, where college students are being robbed and carjacked, all at gunpoint. As…Continue Reading

San Quentin Prison And School Choice

By TERENCE P. JEFFREY When I was a boy, I spent some time inside San Quentin State Prison and got to know a few of the inmates there.The San Rafael Little League played its games in that prison and a group of inmates known as “trustees” umpired them.The grounds of San Quentin were considerably larger…Continue Reading

Stumbling Toward Heaven?… Will Biden Repent Of His Evils Before A Serious Fall Could Harm Him?

By DEXTER DUGGAN Does Joe Biden understand the generosity that God continues to extend to him and his allies who keep trying to drag nations into degeneracy and death?Even though Catholics have come to expect the promotion of awful immorality by some of the U.S.’s most powerful reputedly Catholic politicians — all of them left-wing…Continue Reading

As His Cause Moves Forward… Joseph Dutton’s 180th Birthday Celebrated

By PEGGY MOEN Bishop Larry Silva of Honolulu was invited to Stowe, Vt., to help celebrate the 180th birthday of Joseph Dutton, according to a report in The Hawaii Catholic Herald by Patrick Downes, editor. If canonized, Dutton will be the third saint honored for service at the Hansen’s disease settlement in Kalaupapa, Molokai, the…Continue Reading


Our Catholic Faith (Section B of print edition)

Catholic Replies

Q. Jesus said, “Amen, amen, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink His blood, you do not have life within you.” When will Catholics be able to drink from the cup again? — D.L.H., Iowa.A. The practice of receiving Jesus under both the species of bread and wine was halted during…Continue Reading

In The End, Faith Alone Counts

By FR. KEVIN M. CUSICK Appearances can be deceiving. This overworn adage is so because, human nature being what it is, we must be often reminded of the foolishness, and sometimes the danger, of judging reality purely by what is palpable to our sense of sight. To our eyes, the seeming solidity of the Earth upon which we tread and…Continue Reading

Pondering A Forgotten Virtue: Vengeance

By MSGR. CHARLES POPE (Editor’s Note: Msgr. Pope posted this commentary May 22 on his website, and it is reprinted here with permission.) + + Most of us think that vengeance is merely a vice. And, given improper intentions, or excess or misguided application, it can indeed be a sin and a vice. However, as we read in Scripture, “Vengeance…Continue Reading

Minnesota Legislature Repeals . . . Protection For Born-Alive Infants, Support For Pregnant Women

ST. PAUL — The Minnesota legislature on May 22 approved an Omnibus health bill that repeals a bipartisan measure protecting newborns and a bipartisan program supporting pregnant women who want to carry their babies to term. It also rescinds a number of longstanding laws surrounding abortion. As of this writing, Gov. Tim Walz was expected to sign the wide-ranging bill,…Continue Reading

A Mystery To Ponder For All Eternity

By FR. ROBERT ALTIER Solemnity Of The Most Holy Trinity (YR A) Readings: Exodus 34:4b-6, 8-92 Cor. 13:11-13John 3:16-18 In the readings today, we hear about several attributes of God: grace, mercy, kind, faithful, slow to anger, fellowship, love, and peace. It is also important to note that whenever God is spoken of, it is clear that there is only…Continue Reading

The Devil And The Democrats

By FR. DENIS WILDE, OSA States such as Minnesota, California, Maryland, and others, in all cases with Democrat-controlled legislatures, are on a fast track to not only allow unborn babies to be murdered on demand as a woman’s “constitutional right” but also to allow infanticide.Our nation has gotten so used to the moral evil of killing in the womb that…Continue Reading

Crushed But Unbroken . . . The Martyrdom Of St. Margaret Clitherow

By RAY CAVANAUGH The late-1500s were a tough time for Catholics in England, where the Reformation was in full gear. A 1581 law prohibited Catholic religious ceremonies. And a 1584 Act of Parliament mandated that all Catholic priests leave the country or else face execution. Some chose to remain, however, so they could continue serving the faithful.Also taking huge risks…Continue Reading